I'm a supporter of polygamy; African men are polygamous in nature' -Jibola Dabo

Nollywood actor Jibola Dabo, who has five children from different women said in a recent interview with TheNetng that he's an ardent supporter of polygamy and believes that most men in Africa are polygamous in nature. Read what he said below and tell us if you agree with him.
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"People misunderstands what polygamy means. I am an ardent supporter of polygamy. Every single man, mostly from Africa, is polygamous in nature. We are just deceiving ourselves. Polygamy means when you see a woman you love and desire, you marry her with the consent of your already married wife and bring her home. It's not when you have one wife at home, then you have others scattered in different other places, that is not polygamy. And not when you have three wives and you cannot take care of one, that is an insult to polygamy. There are so many women out there who just want to have a man as an umbrella, but we keep saying one man one woman. Yet the women keep suffering. We all know that we have much more women in this world than men, the ratio is too high.

My father had six wives, my uncle that brought me up had so many wives also. What I am saying is that it is not illegal, we are not in America. Ironically, the white man would have one wife and still keep so many mistresses. If not, there wouldn't have been an English word for concubines. That means it exists in their culture.
Which is better, concubines or wives? In the days when polygamy was well respected, diseases were not rampant. It is now that when men hide to do it that strange sexually transmitted diseases have become the order of the day" he said.

"I have only one wife but I have children from more than one woman. And its not because I had mistresses, its because I have lived in various countries, including America, France, Britain etc. I am this person that any woman that comes to me would always want to have something for me. I have had experiences. I was with a woman and years later, a child was brought to me, a child I didn't know when it was conceived". he added

Sanusi Lamido Fingered As Top Boko Haram Sponsor In Nigeria

 
A new twist has been added to the ongoing travails of the suspended Governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria, CBN, Lamido Sanusi, as the Department of State Security Service, SSS, has accused him of financing terrorism.

The SSS stated this at the Federal High Court, Lagos, while defending its decision to seize Mr. Sanusi’s international passport.

Mr. Sanusi’s passport was seized on February 20, as he arrived the Lagos international airport, hours after he was suspended as Central Bank Governor by President Goodluck Jonathan.

The new charge, which Mr. Sanusi’s lawyers described as false and baseless, tallies with a similar surreptitious but baseless allegation thrown at the bank chief by a presidential aide.

Reno Omokri, the Special Assistant to the President on New Media, had, on February 26, used a pseudonym, Wendell Simlin, to circulate an article that tried to link the recent spike in Boko Haram attack to the suspension of the CBN governor.

The embattled CBN chief was controversially suspended by the president based on allegations of ‘financial recklessness’ by the Financial Reporting Council of Nigeria, FRCN.

Several investigative reports by PREMIUM TIMES had shown that Mr. Sanusi indeed approved some interventionist spendings from CBN funds, but he did so with adequate approval from the board of his bank and President Goodluck Jonathan.

Mr. Sanusi, in separate suits, challenged his suspension, and asked for an enforcement of his fundamental rights as enshrined in the Nigerian constitution.
During the hearing of the rights’ suit, which continued on Monday, the respondents – the Attorney General of the Federation, AGF; the Police; and the SSS – made different claims.
Sanusi sponsors terrorism
The fresh terrorism-related allegation against Mr. Sanusi came from the SSS.

The agency said it was investigating Mr. Sanusi for allegedly financing terrorism. The SSS counsel, Moses Idakwo, said Mr. Sanusi’s interaction with SSS officials did not last for up to an hour and did not constitute a violation of his rights.

He said the provisions of Section 6 of the National Security Agencies’ Act empowered the Service to impound the international passport of suspects pending the conclusion of investigations.

It is not clear how this fresh allegation by the SSS is related to the dubious claims by Mr. Omokri.

PREMIUM TIMES and a few citizen journalists had exposed how Mr. Omokri, using a non-existent alias, Wendell Simlin, created a document linking Mr. Sanusi with financing the terrorist Boko Haram group.

The document was later shown to have been created by Mr. Omokri, with several Nigerians calling for his sack. The presidency has kept mum since the scandal was exposed.

On Monday, however, Mr. Sanusi’s counsel, Kola Awodehin, accused the SSS of falsehood in its new claim against the bank chief, saying the agency had no shred of evidence.
Dismiss Sanusi’s suit
The counsel to the AGF, Fabian Ajogwu, had objected to the suit, urging the court to strike it out for want of jurisdiction.

Mr. Ajogwu argued that the provisions of Section 254 (c) 1 (d) of the 1999 Constitution (as amended) ousted the court’s jurisdiction to entertain the suit.
He noted that the case before the court borders on the applicant’s employment, saying that labour -related cases are within the exclusive jurisdiction of the National Industrial Court, NIC.

“Section 254 (c) 1 (d) of the Constitution vests exclusive jurisdiction on the National Industrial Court, with respect to civil causes or matters touching on employment, labour or industrial relations.

“We respectfully urge the court to hold that it has no jurisdiction to entertain the reliefs sought by the applicant,” he said.

The counsel urged the court to strike out the suit.

Mr. Ajogwu also argued that the applicant should not, by the suit, seek to restrain the respondents from performing their constitutional duties.
He argued that Mr. Sanusi was being investigated based on the FRCN’s claims. He said the suspended bank chief was being investigated in accordance with the provisions of the law, which the respondents had a statutory duty to perform.

Citing the dictum of retired Justice Niki Tobi of the Supreme Court in the case of Adeniran vs Alao, Mr. Ajogwu submitted that a perpetual injunction would be everlasting and could not be granted by
a court of law.

“The applicant’s suit is basically an action to shield him from the machinery of administration of justice, which has been kick-started by the respondents,” Mr. Ajogwu submitted.

Nobody reported Sanusi to us
While the AGF said Mr. Sanusi was being investigated based on the FRCN investigations, the police said it was not investigating the CBN boss.

The counsel to the police, David Abuo, said nobody ever reported Mr. Sanusi to the police.

He, however aligned with Mr. Ajogwu, saying the case should be struck out as it seeks to bar government agencies from performing their duties.
Sanusi reacts

Responding to the respondents’ preliminary objection, Mr. Awodehin submitted that the court was vested with the jurisdiction to entertain the suit.
He argued that the suit had nothing to do with the terms of employment of the applicant or industrial relations, since it was not a case of the applicant against the Central Bank of Nigeria.

He argued that the applicant never sought an order of perpetual injunction, adding that the reliefs he sought were qualified.

“It cannot be suggested that the applicant is restraining the respondents from performing their duties, but they must be restrained from doing so without due process of the law.

“The seizure of the applicant’s international passport by the third respondent is a derogation of his freedom of movement,” he said.
Mr. Awodehin also argued that the different submissions by the three respondents showed that laws were being violated in Mr. Sanusi’s treatment.

“The first to third respondents give conflicting reasons as to the complaint made against the applicant.

“This conflict goes to show that they acted without due process of the law,” he said.

The counsel also argued that the SSS’ claim of financing terrorism was bogus.

“The allegation against the applicant as to funding of terrorism is an afterthought by the respondents which is not backed by facts, as there is no reasonable suspicion that the applicant committed any crime,” he said.

He urged the court to dismiss the preliminary objection and uphold the case of the applicant.

The court had on February 21 granted an interim order, restraining the respondents from arresting, detaining, or harassing the applicant pending the determination of the substantive suit.

The interim order was sequel to an affidavit of urgency filed by the applicant on the same date. On Monday, the court adjourned ruling on the preliminary objection to April 4.

A Love Letter

A Love Letter

My lady love,

You were my monument of beauty, a paragon to be admired by all, the epitome of magnificent splendor, an object of admiration, a pinnacle of praise. Baby girl, you were my delight, specially crafted and adorned with grace. I filled your heart with love, laced it with mercy, and finished it off with kindness. Your eyes were made to reflect my joy and your smile was given to be shared with others, to lift a broken spirit, and calm a troubled mind. My lady, I gave you a listening ear, welcoming arms, and mercy’s touch. Your body was made to house my spirit as a tabernacle, a place where I would be pleased to dwell. When I finished working on your interior, I saw that you were naked and needed to be clothed, so I rubbed fragrant oils into your skin. I gave you expensive and beautifully embroidered clothing and sandals made of the finest leather. I gave you lovely jewelry—bracelets, a beautiful necklace, earrings, and a lovely crown for your head. You ate the finest foods—flour, honey, and olive oil—and became more beautiful than ever. You looked like a queen and so you were! Then I passed by you after a while and saw that you were old enough for love. I spread my cloak around you, declared my marriage vows to you, and you became mine. Your fame soon spread throughout the world on account of your exquisiteness because the glory I bestowed on you perfected your beauty.

Then, you thought you could get along without me, so you trusted instead in your fame and beauty. You gave yourself to every man who came along; your beauty was theirs for the asking. You even used the beautiful things I gave you to lure more men, forgetting all about me and how much I loved you and still do. In all the years of running around, you never gave thought to me or the days long gone by when you were nothing, or to how I found you and made you into the paragon you turned out to be. Now I could have have given you what you deserved because you have taken your marriage vows lightly by breaking our covenant; yet I will keep my covenant with you and not turn away from you. If only you would remember me and return to me. I want you to wash yourself clean. I hate the smell of other men on you. Wear the fine garment you wore on the day we took our vows; pour the sweet-smelling oil on your body and wear the perfume I gave you long ago. Then return home to me and I will forgive you, for I have always loved you, my lady. My heart goes out to you for the pain you are going through and I want to put an end to that misery. I love you dearly, my lady love. Come back home to me, for this is where you belong.

Your Lord

To every woman out there in a broken relationship or marriage, or going through divorce, I pray you take solace in the fact that God loves you more!

Paralyzing Moments

There will be times in life when you feel completely boxed in by an overwhelming situation. There’s only one term that can describe what you feel at such times: paralyzing fear. It is a choking feeling caused by not knowing what else to do when you have explored all the available options. You suddenly lose control of yourself. Your mind goes numb, and your thought process completely stops. You feel little sweat beads running down the sides of your face, and visible tremors seize your whole body. You lose control of your limbs, causing your joints to weaken and give way. You stumble to the ground in finality. This must be the end, you conclude in your thoughts.

I read about the experience of a fascinating group of people and how they overcame their own paralyzing moments. This story was written in an Old Testament book called Exodus, and it is a simple yet profound account of how the Israelites crossed the Red Sea. The Israelites had been slaves in Egypt for 400 years. They had been mistreated and ridiculed by their overseers, experiencing the horrible degradation that comes with slavery. Mothers watched their children born and die in slavery. The people had come to accept this status as their fate. Then suddenly, out of the blue, a man appeared and told them, “you are going to leave Egypt; you will once again become free men.”

I can only imagine their mental and emotional struggles as they tried to believe the words of this prophet. In the days that followed, the Israelites experienced first-hand the wonders of the God through the prophet as they were delivered from Pharaoh’s tight clutches. They saw Egypt’s water turn to blood, locust cover the entire land and devour the plants, and all of Egypt’s first born die. The people gradually believed the in prophet’s God and the prophet’s claim. One day, the people found themselves walking out of Egypt and into freedom with their children, all their possessions, and more. They rejoiced because of their deliverance as walked all the way through the desert until they arrived at the Red Sea where they set up a camp between Migdol and the Red sea.

The people did not complain about living in a camp by the Red Sea. At least they were free and would no longer be called slaves. The new status was enough until they realized Pharaoh and his entire army were right behind them. Pharaoh had changed his mind and was coming to drag them back into slavery. The people panicked and cried out to the prophet in fear. Pharaoh and his army were coming behind them on swift chariots and the Red Sea was moving boisterously in front of them. Any attempt to move back would have driven them into the hands of the Egyptians, and any attempt to move forward would have meant drowning in the Red Sea. There was no escape. The prophet turned to his God, the ever-present help in times of need, and he was told, “Don’t be afraid! Be brave, and you will see the Lord save you today. These Egyptians will never bother you again. The Lord will fight for you, and you won’t have to do a thing. Why do you keep calling out to me for help? Tell the Israelites to move forward. Then hold your walking stick over the sea. The water will open up and make a road where they can walk through on dry ground.”

I can’t even imagine what was going through the prophet’s mind as he listened to God’s words, but he kept his reserve to himself. He moved forward, stretched his rod out over the sea, and watched it part. In my geography class, I was taught that the sea bed is lower than the level of the ground around the sea. When the sea was parted, I wonder if the sea bed was elevated to ground level so the people were able to walk easily or if the people had to walk down into the sea bed. I have no idea, but I know the sea parted, and the people walked through on dry land.

In life, paralyzing moments will definitely come our way. The best thing to do during those times is to keep moving forward. Like the prophet’s God said to the Israelites, “the water will open and make a road where you can walk on dry ground.” Remember, your victory will be in the faith-based-actions you take. Don’t stop; keep moving.

Raising Godly Children

“Children are a gift from the Lord; they are a reward from him” Psalm 127: 3

It’s just good sense to always treat what others give to you well- take good care of it so the giver can be pleased to give you more gifts. So if children are a gift from God, how can we treat them well and raise them up to be godly upstanding citizens? 

As with everything in life there is a secret to successfully raising godly children. So I asked a couple of well experienced parents who have been parenting since the 70’s what’s the most important thing you must do as a parent to ensure you raise your kids to be godly and here are their responses:

• Teach them to fear God.
  

• Teach them the law of sowing and reaping as reflected in the Lord’s Prayer, the Beatitudes and His final word on Love.

• The Word of God is Truth so let’s take a peek and see just a few things The Word says concerning  training children: Train your child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart from it. All our children shall be taught of the Lord and great shall be their peace.

• Teach them about Christ and teach them to fear Him. So teach the Word and teach them to live the Word.

• Teach them to love the Lord and share the love of Christ. These encompass the two greatest commandments that we are given. Love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your mind and with all your strength and love your neighbor as yourself.
  

• Spare the rod and spoil the child. Hmmm, a very difficult issue today. Sparing the rod does not mean slapping the child across the face or waving the dreadful horsewhip to correct unacceptable behavior. We may only be teaching violence by such behavior. However it does mean some appropriate discipline for a crime committed. Where there is a lack of discipline there are no boundaries to guide behavior. The Word tells us to correct in love.

• Very crucial is we as adults must set godly examples too. Of what use is it when we teach our children to always say the truth and then someone we don’t want to see comes to our door step and we tell the child, “tell her mummy is not in” when we clearly are. We are unwittingly teaching our children to lie. Jokes! The child gets to the door and tells this unwelcome visitor “mummy says I should tell you she is not in”. When we do our part and obey God concerning His word generally and in particular the training of our children, God will do His part and bless the work of our hands so let us not shy away or put aside the Word as if it is not relevant or applicable today. Yes, a tough job it is and it’s a job for life!

• Get them to pray daily especially for little needs such as tests and exams and at the same time to be thankful for little needs such as food on the table, clothes on their back, etc; Memorize scriptures, read a bible text daily, watch what they watch on TV and censor them. Teach them positivity in every situation, no matter how bleak it may seem. Above all, live by examples. practice daily in your speech and conduct what you teach.

• As a parent, I have exposed my children to the Lord from babyhood. I have tried to be consistent and discipline when necessary but still love them to bits. Not allowed over exposure to the wrong things and given boundaries as I have felt appropriate. I have tried to emulate appropriate behavior so not too often do I have an accusation of not practicing what I preach. These are helping to guide their actions as young adults and the word which they have been taught from very young keeps them in line as their reference point.

• Right from the womb you begin to pray on your child until you put to bed. Then you start to read the bible to your baby. Pray with him in the morning and at night. If he does anything wrong correct him immediately do not say he is small. As he or she is growing let them help in activities at home.

In a nutshell, if we do plan to help our kids have a successful future; we need to train them to fear God. 

“God will bless those who fear him LORD, both the small and the great”. (Psalm 115:13)

PHOTO: Man Proposes to His Girlfriend on The Air In Arik Plane

I guess this is romantic and many ladies will love it. But the guy get liver sha, to do this kind thing on air where a lot of people are busy praying that their plane should not get messing or anything like that.

The young man was given a different seat from his fiancée on the trip but that still did not stop him as he left his seat and walk down to hers, brought out a ring and, as usual, the girl said YES! See more pix below...


...love is sweet!

HAPPY NEW MONTH