Friday, 7 February 2014

7 Types Of Guys Who Aren't The Marrying Type

1. The guy who tells you he doesn’t want a serious relationship right now. Believe him, because it is usually true.
2. The guy who talks about his ex more than he talks about anyone else. He isn’t over her.
3. The guy who suggests things you could do to improve your looks. Let him go.
4. The guy who thinks it’s genetic to cheat. Marriage isn’t natural, that’s why you have to commit.
5. The guy who is in his mid to late forties and has never been married.
6. The guy who still doesn’t know what he wants to do in his life or career at the age of twenty-five is not good husband material.
7. The guy who is hung up on himself. If he thinks he hung the moon, don’t delude yourself into thinking you can change him.

Why Good Grammar (and Teeth) are Important for Getting a Job

Earlier this week, the online dating website Match.com released the results of a study on what singles look for in potential dating partners. The results weren’t particularly surprising, but the prioritization was. Number one on the list – nice teeth. Number two – good grammar. It makes sense. A first date is an introduction to what could possibly (and for some, hopefully) be a long-term relationship. And who wants to spend the next several years of their life with someone who sounds uneducated…or who has bad teeth?
It’s not hard to make the analogy to a job interview. Again, we’re talking about an introduction that could potentially lead to a long-term relationship between an employer and employee. Granted, nice teeth will probably not get you the job (though we have established that appearance does play an important role in the workplace). Grammar skills, on the other hand, are essential!
There are a number of reasons why someone may use poor grammar. Whether it be cultural background, educational background or simply not knowing the difference between good or bad grammar, here’s an important piece of advice when interviewing for a job: learn the difference between good and bad grammar, and know when to use it.
Every good performer knows his or her audience, and plays to it. No matter how talented a pop or hip-hop artist may be, they know that their music probably would not be well received by the audience at a Royal Philharmonic Orchestra concert. When interviewing for a job, the interview is your stage, and your potential future employer is your audience. Give them the show they came to see, and if you do well, you’ll be invited back for an encore.
Now, I know there are plenty of exceptions to every rule. If I were interviewing with Citibank, the way I presented myself would be very different than if I were interviewing with Wu-Tang Corp., and grammar would be no exception. But my advice remains the same – know your audience, and play to it.
Keep in mind that grammar isn’t limited to verbal communication. Most of the time, a candidate’s resume is the first contact he or she has with an employer. Obviously, I shouldn’t have to stress how important spelling and grammar are on a resume. One of the most overused descriptors when describing oneself to a prospective employer is “detail-oriented.” What better way to disprove that than applying for a job with a resume full of grammatical errors? I know, some will say that unless you’re applying for a writing or editing position, a lack of grammar skills doesn’t inhibit your ability to do your job. But I beg to differ. EVERY job requires attention to detail in some aspect. Bad grammar shows a lack of it. Lack of attention to detail translates into mistakes, regardless of industry, and no employer wants to hire an employee who requires damage control. So before you ask a potential employer to entrust you with confidential company information or thousands of dollars of company equipment, you should prove you know the difference between “you’re” and “your.”
In addition to screening applicants’ resumes by spelling and grammar, some employers will go as far as issuing a grammar test to prospective employees. Online repair community iFixit and software company Dozuki are two such companies. According to the companies’ CEO Kyle Wiens:
Grammar signifies more than just a person’s ability to remember high school English. People who make fewer mistakes on a grammar test also make fewer mistakes when they are doing something completely unrelated to writing – like stocking shelves or labeling parts. In the same vein, programmers who pay attention to how they construct written language also tend to pay a lot more attention to how they code. All applicants say they’re detail-oriented; I just make my employees prove it.
Of course, exceptions can be made for those who are not native English speakers. But for those who are speaking their native tongue, consider the learning curve you’re demonstrating to employers. “You’ve been speaking the language how long? And you still haven’t mastered it? Is this the same learning curve we can expect when taking on a new assignment, or learning our company’s products?”
Make no mistake, if you aren’t detail-oriented, your interviewer will be. With all the preparation that goes into a job interview and all the skills you’ve worked to acquire that led to your being offered the interview, don’t eliminate yourself because of something as fundamental as grammar.

Top 10 signs she loves you

1. You notice a change in her appearance
You will notice a sudden makeover in the way she looks. Her makeup, hairstyle, clothes and accessories will change as she will do anything to try and impress you.


2. She shows genuine concern for you
When a woman falls in love, she will worry about you and won’t be able to stay away if she notices you’re having troubles. She will let you know that she's there for you in case you need her.


3. She shows you off to family and friends
A woman who really loves a man is proud to be with him and can't wait to show him off to her friends and family. She will constantly talk about you with others.


4. She makes sacrifices for you
Another sign that she really loves you is when she takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do.


5. She talks about the future with you
A woman in love will talk very excitedly about the future, making plans regarding it and telling you about the things she wants the two of you to do together.


6. She does unexpected, yet pleasant things to surprise you
It's in a woman's nature to want to give to the people she cares about such as showing up at your workplace with lunch.

7. She touches you frequently
A woman in love enjoys being physically close to the person she appreciates.


8. You are the only guy she's focused on

9. She wants to be around you as much as possible
A woman in love won’t think twice about clearing up her busy schedule for you.


10. She wants to know intimate details about you
If she starts being extremely curious, asking about your day, wanting to know everything about your childhood, your family, and things that happened in your life that made you the man you are today, it's a very good indication that she loves you.

10 signs you're with the wrong woman

1. She doesn't show affection



2. She is reluctant to make future plans with you



3. She destroys your self-confidence
She repeatedly puts you down, constantly corrects your slight mistakes, making you feel "on guard", unintelligent, and leaving you with the feeling that you are always doing something wrong.


4. She discounts your feelings
She tells you that your feelings and opinions don't make sense, they're silly, and that you are emotionally disturbed to even think of such things. Women who behave like this often become extremely hostile toward criticism and often react with anger or even rage when their behavior is questioned.


5. She displays psychotic behaviors
She displays behaviors such as constant temper tantrums, snooping and emotional blackmail. Women like this carry a tremendous amount of emotional baggage and will do things that are completely crazy.

6. She uses sex as a weapon
Some women tend to use sex as a way to coerce their men into getting their way. If they want something to happen then they know that this would be the perfect opportunity to get their man to do it.


7. She is not trustworthy



8. She cuts you off from loved ones
When it's time to spend quality time with your family, she suddenly becomes sick, stuck in traffic or experiences something major at work. She resents your family for taking up your time and even forbids you from associating with them at all.


9. She's too insecure
She secretly checks your email, internet history and your cell phone. She feels threatened when you discuss your previous relationships, hates the idea of meeting your female friends and constantly attempts to trap you with questions like, "Do you think I'm pretty?"


10. She's too controlling
She tells you when you can go out, when you can invite the guys over to watch the game and will even call you 10-15 times per day to keep track on what you're doing

10 signs he's a player


1. He cancels your first date. Unless he's truly sick or has a business meeting out of town, your dream date may have been caught up in the moment when he double-booked you.

2. He asks you out for weeknight dates only.

3. He doesn't introduce you to his friends or family.

4. He calls you last minute for dates.  If your dream date calls you the day of, or even the day before a date to get together, don't get excited and change your plans with your girlfriendsto accommodate him. You aren't a priority if you aren't on the calendar at least several days beforehand.

5. He consistently cancels dates at the last minute. If you are getting cancelled on the day of your date more than once, it's a red flag. Don't put up with it.

6. He introduces you as his friend. If you are sleeping with a guy who doesn't call you hisgirlfriend, significant other, or other pet name in public, you're just a friend with benefits.

7. He disappears for days at a time.

8. He's vague and mysterious. While you might think it's sexy to have a little mystery in the relationship, when he's consistently vague about his whereabouts, he's hiding something.

9. He often mentions other women as his business associates. If your guy consistently goes to business mixers in the evening to meet with potential female clients, chances are he's going on a date. He'll likely be referring to you as the same.

10. He refuses to get tested for an STD. Don't buy the line that he's not sleeping with anyone else but you. If you are moving towards an intimate relationship, get tested before the clothes end up on the floor in a night of passion. Practice safe sex, period. Don't have unprotected sex without being tested. It's about respect, romance, and responsibility. The classic player is likely to be having sex with multiple partners without protection.

Top 10: Are You Ready For Marriage?

1. Do you really love this woman?
It’s very important that you actually enjoy spending significant amounts of time with the woman you’re about to commit the rest of your life to. Do you really, really love her? Do you care about the details of her life? Does she preoccupy your thoughts? Do you love this woman at her worst?
2. Are you ready to be responsible for a wife and family?
3. What are our values (family, religion, politics), and do they mesh?
4. Do you trust this woman completely?
5. Do you really know her?
6. Have we discussed whether or not we want children?
7. Does she want to keep her last name or change it?
8. Can you imagine being with her for the next 30+ years?
When all is said and done, when looks and passion fade, do you see yourself able to be with this same woman having spirited conversations sitting on the porch when the two of you are old and gray? If you can’t see yourself with this woman in a few months, let alone a few years, you’re not ready for marriage.
9. How will you manage your finances?
Some couples like to combine all their finances; others prefer to have a joint account for the household expenses, and separate accounts for personal spending.You need to discuss what individual assets and debts both of you bring to the marriage.
10. Under what circumstances would you consider divorce?
Infidelity? Dishonesty? Abuse? Again, there’s no “right” answer here, but it helps to reduce any uncertainty if you hear before you get married the level of commitment you are both bringing to the table.

10 Great Ways To Break Up With Someone Via Text Message

1. Sorry. It's over.
2. I would tell you this in person, but I wouldn't be able to make myself do it. I think it's best we don't see each other anymore.
3. I think we should start seeing other people.
4. I am bad with commitment, and I would just end up cheating on you anyway. So let's end it now.
5. I love you to death, but I would rather not die right now. Hope you get my point. Bye.
6. Are you dumping me right now? Because if you're not, then I am.
7. I have made a few bad decisions in my life. Giving you my number was one of them. We are done.
8. I don't want you to fall in love with me, so let's just be friends.
9. It's best if you and I never see each other anymore.
10. We could have been something, but you had to ruin it. I am through with you!

Why Do Women Like Bad Boys?

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard women say they want a “corporate thug” or have a “thug passion.” Personally, I don’t think “corporate thugs” really exist – it just seems like an oxymoron to me. However, I think I understand what they mean by it. They want a man with street sensibilities and a graduate degree. But honestly, how often do you come across a true “thug” who wears a suit to work everyday?
Now, let me preface this post by saying I have a bias against thug dudes. I admit it. I know I’m judging a book by its cover, and that’s wrong, but I’ve done it. I’ve never been attracted to the “bad boy” type. I can appreciate their “alpha dog” appeal, but I’ve never wanted to date one.
Other women, however, may like a man with some “street edge.” I get it. Most women are attracted to men who seem like they can handle themselves, and who can “handle” them too…whether it’s in the form of physical protection or sexual prowess. I think maybe when I was in my early 20’s, you could have convinced me that “street” was hot in some way; at that age, attraction and “excitement” were more important than say…a credit score. But now, they just look silly to me.
Maybe “edge” and “thug” are a bit different. I think all men should be able to handle themselves and have some street smarts or common sense, not just “hood” dudes or self-proclaimed bad boys. You don’t have to have a lot of muscles to be a “real” man. Being a bad boy shouldn’t make you attractive or edgy, yet I find a lot of women gravitate towards men who look more like felons than professors. He has to be a “soldier.” I know women subconsciously test men for strength, leadership abilities and overall dominance; it’s the “survival of the fittest” principle at its core. We don’t want a man we can walk all over who can’t stand up for himself, because if he can’t stand up to us, how can he protect us? Alpha male. Again, I get it.
But does “thuggery” equal strength? Do muscles automatically make you an alpha male? Are educated men who have financial security less attractive because they can crush you with their intellect and their wallet rather than with their fists?
I don’t know if it’s just me but most men I’ve met who appear to be “bad boys” are not the best guys to date. I once read that even though a woman may logically know these types are a bad choice, biologically and culturally they’ve been bred through thousands of years of evolution to respond positively to dominant, alpha male traits on a primal, unthinking level. I think this is totally true because if we were to use our right mind, the Beta Male would seem way more attractive to us.
The Beta Male is the safe one: responsible, maybe not as physically dominating, but is intelligent and reliable. Unfortunately, he seems to be our second choice. The nerdy doctor is no where near as fine as Pookie, so we overlook him hoping that we can tame the drug dealer instead. We pass over an “Obama” type because he doesn’t possess the “street” or “thug” traits we seek. I’m not saying all women do this, but for those who do, I’m wondering why?
As grown women, shouldn’t we want the man who can stimulate us mentally and not just physically? Who could probably walk into a bank armed with a good credit score and down payment for a house and who has a healthy portfolio and 401K? I’m not talking about someone you simply have sex with and keep as your dirty little secret. Is it hot to be booed up with a guy who can probably fight, but can’t walk into a job interview and nail it? Don’t get me wrong, there are corporate men out there who can rock a suit just as well as some jeans and Timbs swag on the weekend. I’m not talking about them. I like versatile men just as much as the next woman. But Pookie n’em get no play from me.
Again, I know I may be wrong in my assessment, and I can admit when I’m being narrow-minded…but is it just me? I know I may catch hell for this post, but somebody enlighten me – what am I missing?

Hotel Selling Cooked Human Meat Found In Onitsha, 11 Arrested With Human Heads

According to Osun Defender, Onitsha police arrested 11 people after they discovered 2 fresh human heads in a hotel (name withheld) very close to the popular Ose-Okwodu market in Anambra state on Thursday.



2 AK47 rifles and other weapons were also discovered in the hotel. The arrest followed tip-offs from area residents on Thursday morning.

The hotel owner, 6 women and 4 men were arrested. After police got access to the hotel, they made a startling discovery of two human heads wrapped in a cellophane bag, two AK47 rifles, two army caps, 40 rounds of live ammunition and so many cell phones.

“Each time I came to market, because the hotel is very close to the market, I always noticed funny movements in and out of the hotel; dirty people with dirty characters always come into the hotel.

So, I was not surprised when the police made this discovery in the early hours of yesterday,” said a vegetable seller in the area.

A Pastor who was among the people who tipped off the police on Thursday said: “I went to the hotel early this year, after eating, I was told that a lump of meat was being sold at N700, I was surprised.

So I did not know it was human meat that I ate at such expensive price.”

OLU MAINTAIN WEDS SECRETLY

Olu Maintain Weds Secretly [Photos] 
 


One time rave making artiste, Olu Maintain has been reported to have secretly wedded a white lady.

Obviously, the wedding didn’t take place in Nigeria because no one knew about this.

He wanted to keep this secret but the photos were leaked to Erave. But at the moment, we are not sure whether both couple will be coming to Nigeria to stay or not.

He sure has a lot to tell the media whenever we catch up with him. Congrats to him anyway.

Thursday, 6 February 2014

Apply for 2014/2015 NNPC/Chevron Nigerian University Scholarship

2014/2015 NNPC/Chevron JV National University Scholarship Awards for Undergraduate students
Chevron Nigeria Limited, in collaboration with its Joint Venture partner, the Nigerian National Petroleum Corporation (NNPC), is offering a number of Chevron Scholarship Awards to suitably qualified undergraduate students in Nigerian Universities. Full-time second year (200level) students studying specific courses listed below, in Nigerian Universities, are invited to apply online.
Eligible Course of Study
E-applications are invited from full-time SECOND YEAR (200 LEVEL) degree students of the under-listed courses, in Nigerian Universities:
·         Accountancychevron scholarship
·         Agricultural Engineering/Agricultural Science
·         Architecture
·         Business Administration/Economics
·         Chemical Engineering
·         Civil Engineering
·         Computer Science
·         Electrical/Electronic Engineering
·         Environmental Studies/Surveying
·         Geology/Geophysics
·         Law
·         Mass Communication/Journalism
·         Mechanical/Metallurgical & Materials Engineering
·         Human Medicine/Dentistry/Pharmacy
·         Petroleum Engineering
Application Guidelines
1. Before you start this application, ensure you have clear scanned copies of the following documents
      • Passport photograph with white background not more than 3 months old (450px by 450px not more than 200kb)
      • School ID card
      • Admission letter
      • Birth certificate
      • O’ Level result
      • JAMB Result
2. Ensure the documents are named according to what they represent to avoid mixing up documents during upload
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How I Got Married To My Own Father Without Knowing Him – Woman Opens Up


It was a dark secret. The kind that destroys lives, devastates families and decimates faith. Nobody shared it in any way with Valerie Spruill while her "husband" was alive. Four years after his death, she heard bits of the story. It was something about an absentee father, something about her husband.



None of it made sense. That’s not until her uncle finally told her what no one else had: She had unknowingly married the father she never knew. “I don’t know if he ever knew or not. That conversation didn’t come up,” she said. “I think if he did know, there is no way he could have told me.” “It is devastating. It can destroy you!” Spruill told CNN late Thursday by telephone. “It almost did.”

60-year-old Spruill of Doylestown, Ohio, went public with her story this month, first published in the Akron Beacon Journal, with the hopes that it would help others facing what seem like insurmountable problems. It’s a story that has gone viral, attracting attention as faraway as Australia and India where the questions are always the same, she says: How could that happen?

It’s a question that Spruill said she has been grappling with since she first learned the truth in 2004, six years after her “husband” Percy Spruill died. She confirmed her “husband” was indeed her father through a DNA test, hair taken from one of his brushes.

The aftermath of the secret was devastating emotionally — and physically, Spruill suffered two strokes and was diagnosed with diabetes. All of it, she believes was brought on by learning the family secret. “Pain and stress will kill, and I had to release my stress,” Spruill said. “I’m just telling the story to release my pain.”

She has a deep, abiding faith in God, who she believes has guided her through the experience — and others that have shaped her life. “You have to have faith,” she said. “If God brought me this far, He’s not going to leave me now.”

Spruill met and married her husband/father in Akron and settled in Doylestown, a working class suburb of not more than 2,300 people.

It was her second marriage. Spruill was a nice man, a good provider. He was kind to her three children from her previous marriage.

“We had a good life,” she said. She initially struggled with anger, with hating Spruill for what happened. But therapy taught her what happened wasn’t her fault. Her faith taught her to forgive. Initial response to her story has been mixed: “More positive than negative,” she says.

In recent days, she has been in contact with a couple who found out after they were married that they were brother and sister. They told her, she said, that her story is helping them deal with their own experience.

“They are trying to be friends now,” Spruill said. Others, though, have been less kind. “They’ve said things like ‘Some secrets should stay secrets,’” she said. “I can’t do anything about what they think. I just know what I think. God is always mighty, and he teaches you to tell the truth no matter what.”

Spruill knows not everybody tells the truth. It’s a lesson she learned as a child the hard way.

By all accounts, Spruill’s mother got pregnant as a teenager while dating her then 15-year-old father. She was 3-months-old when she was sent to live with her grandmother and grandfather, who she initially believed as she grew up was her father.

Spruill said at about age 8 or 9, she discovered that the woman who often visited the house was not a family friend but her mother. But nobody, she said, talked about her father. There’s nobody left to give her the answers about her husband-father. Her mother, Christine, died in 1984. Her grandparents have long since passed. So, too, have a number of Percy Spruill’s relatives.

Spruill knows her mother worked as a prostitute and even got caught up in 1980 high-profile corruption scandal surrounding James Barbuto, a probate judge who was convicted of intimidating investigators and gross sexual imposition for attacking a courthouse clerk in his chambers.

“My mother showed me lots of love. All said and done, I have no regrets in my life at all,” she said. She believes she has siblings or half-siblings from Spruill’s previous relationships, including the one with her mother.

She said she wants to find them and let them know they are not alone. Spruill, herself, has three children and eight grandchildren. She struggled with telling her children that the man they believed was their step-father was their grandfather.

A therapist “advised me to tell my kids,” she said. “I told them about two years ago. They are remarkable. They are handling it better than I am.”

In recent days, shortly before the news broke, she also told her grandchildren. “They have been so supportive. They are telling me they love me, telling me they will do whatever I need,” she said.

In her spare time, since retiring from accounting department where she worked for 34 years at Goodyear, she has been writing down her story with the hopes of publishing it.

“I thank God that he gave me a chance to live through all of these,” she said. “It is nothing short of a miracle that I’m still here. I want people to know that they can survive something like this.”

IMO GOT TALENT CREATOR SHOT DEAD IN HIS HOTEL ROOM IN OWERRI TODAY

Imo Got Talent Creator Shot Dead In His Hotel Room In Owerri Today 







Prince Noel Tochukwu, one of the guys behind Imo Got Talent was shot dead in his hotel room in Owerri today Feb. 4th by unknown gunmen. He was based in Houston, Texas and was the president of Prince Noel Production. He was a promoter, a talent manager and a graduate of Psychology from the university of Portland.

Don't have much details about the sad incident but his friends have been mourning his passing on social media and one of them brought my attention to it. Will hopefully bring an update later. Meanwhile continue to see more tweets from his friends...


From Prince Noel Tochukwu's Facebook page





  
Huh! Real Reason Why Iyanya Broke Up Yvonne Nelson 
  
 


when we all thought Yvonne Nelson was at peace and over his one time boyfriend Iyanya, news has come about the exact reason why they broke up, whether it’s true or not, we still don’t know as Yvonne Nelson has always been a subject of ridicule by the media.

According to Naijapals.Com,


More revelations are beginning to emerge as to why Nigerian‘Kurukere’ singer, Iyanya Mbuk, parted ways with Ghanaian actress, Yvonne Nelson, the recent being that Yvonne actually pestered Iyanya with marriage and at one point, asked him to marry her.

This much was revealed to us by an insider who is very close to the duo. The source who does not want his name in print, divulged to us that Yvonne was so much in love with the ‘Your Waist’ rocker and wanted the relationship to get to another level but that when Iyanya was foot dragging, she took the bull by the horn and told him she would love to spend the rest of her life with him.

“Yvonne wanted to take her relationship with Iyanya to the next level but they weren’t on the same page. Yvonne wanted to have him as a hubby but he wasn’t keen on the idea because he felt it was too early to talk about those things. She told him she loved him and would love him forever,” the source stated.

But, according to the source, she was very hurt when Iyanya told her he was not ready to settle down since he has a long way to go.

“When a lady tells you she loves you, and wants to be serious with you, start a real life with you, and maybe, have you as husband and you turn her down, that’s all bad. It is like game over,” the source concluded.

Kate Henshaw Gives N50, 000 To Contestant On Nigeria’s Got Talent


Movie star, Kate Henshaw recently rewarded a Comedian with N50, 000 for a sterling performance during a performance at the Nigeria Got Talent TV show.
The 19-year-old Comedian, Laff Doctor, who is a finalist in the ongoing Nigeria’s Got Talent Season 2, wowed the Nollywood Actress with his wholesome comedy performance.

“I am sorry to the producers of this show for doing this, but I owe you N50, 000. Your energy and timing is fantastic,” Kate announced and the audience screamed for joy.
The young man further earned a standing ovation from other judges, Yibo Koko and Dan Foster after his performance.
The winner of the second season of the show gets a whooping sum of N10 million

Wednesday, 5 February 2014

Desmond Elliot Birthday Photos


Desmond Elliot Birthday Photos
Friends and colleagues of Nollywood actor, producer and director Desmond Elliot hosted him to birthday dinner last night.
The actor turned 36 yesterday, Tuesday 4th February 2014.

A private party was held in his honour at Golf Bar of Raddison Blu, on Victoria Island, Lagos.
The party was graced by the likes of Emem Isong, Rita Dominic, Alexx Ekubo, Uru Eke, IK Ogbonna, Rukky Sanda and Majid Michel and others.
Check out more photos from the event:

TRAGIC: Man And Daughter Die As Jeep Crash Into Lagos Lagoon

photoA man and hiscdaughter lost their lives after their Toyota jeep in which they were travelling fell off the Ikota Bridge in Ajah and plunged into a lagoon.

The incident occurred on Tuesday at about 1.am.
The man and his daughter were said to have drowned while the wife survived as she was thrown out by the vehicle before it plunged into the lagoon.
She has been taken to the hospital where she is receiving treatment.
According to the Lagos State Emergency Management Agency (LASEMA), the search for the Toyota jeep is still ongoing while the bodies of the victims have been recovered and deposited at a mortuary.
Confirming the incident, the General Manager of LASEMA, Mr Femi Oke-Osanyintolu said the cause of the incident was yet to be ascertained and urged the state residents to be safety-conscious.

Amaechi Reveals Why He Was Absent At Abuja Meeting

Governor Chibuike Amaechi
The Chief Press Secretary to the Rivers State Governor, Mr. David Iyofor, explained that Amaechi’s absence at the council of state meeting in Abuja on Tuesday was not deliberate.
According to the official representative, Amaechi, who travelled abroad on Friday, did not get the information about the meeting before leaving the country last week.
His words: "The governor has not been in the country. He travelled out of the country on Friday before the information of the state council meeting got to him. The appointment of the governor abroad had been scheduled some months ago. So, he (Amaechi) did not avoid the council of state meeting."

News

Party Defectors Are Like Fulani Nomads- Maku

* Says They Are Already Causing Trouble In APC
The Minister of Information and Supervising Minister of Defence, Labaran Maku has likened the defection of some politicians from the People's Democratic Party (PDP) to the All Progressives Congress (APC) to that of the Fulani nomads.
He further described them as trouble makers who have not yet told Nigerians the major problem they are having, as some of them cannot exist under the same roof with others without having problems.
Maku who noted that no party would be happy to lose it's members to another party because every political party would wish that it is labeled to retain all its members with a large number of members said what had happened to the PDP is that it was loosing weight to gain strength.
" I want to urge journalists to begin to monitor these movements more so as some of them have been moving for years now, they have not stopped they are like the Fulani nomads, they move from one party to another without shame , it shouldn't be something that we should cherish.
" I have always made a point that sometimes you need to lose weight to gain strength and that is exactly what has happened in PDP.
"When a number of these people were leaving PDP I said the party would be healthier in the long run. First of all, if you look at all the people that have left PDP some of them are the people that have caused all the headaches in the party, they have been the ones attacking their party, they are very quarrelsome, they have oversized egos, some of them cannot stay under the same roof with anybody for one week without the top blowing up, a number of these people who left, if you take a look at the history of our party and look at their antecedent you will see that they are migrants, they keep migrating from one one place to another. So party needs to have members that believe in its ideology, that settle down because they believe in the party.
"A party is not just a market for people to stand for election, but a number of people who are leaving see the party as a market place for election, a number of them will come in because they want to contest for election, but if they lose they run out.
"Political parties after 15 years of democracy in our country, we must begin to settled own , let us know those who believe in the party, those who believe in the policy and programmes of the party, not because they have an electoral ambition , but because they want the party as a organization that would develop the society improve its policy , improve the country.
"Now as we grow older in PDP, we are beginning to see that after these people left, the party is ganging some stability.
"You notice that the last one year, they have turned the party into object of ridicule, abusing the party making it look so bad. Meanwhile all the parties they have gone to, none of them has a programme yet, none of them has any ideological focus. The new parties hey gave run to, they have no registered members yet, get did not have convention, so you can see clearly that... Even within this small period since some of these elements left PDP they have caused significant problem in the new party they ran to. They are already causing a huge problem there. There is already an explosion in APC in Kano, because Kwankwaso went straight and took over a party he was not part of, and insist that he must be the leader, and sacked those who formed the party. You go to Sokoto again, Wamakko went immediately and hijacked the party from  those who formed APC in the place, who dissolved their own parties in order to form a political party that would compete with" .
Speaking further he said "These people went and hijacked the party took it away from them so even from the point of view of Justice, you were looking for democracy and you saw nothing wrong in going to another and hijacking the structure from them. So you can see they are not democrats, these are serious desperadoes who believe that unless they are in charge nobody should be and they are not democrats.
"If you are a democrat, you join a new party you will work your way through you will give confidence to the new people in the party but they went straight, hijacked the structure sacked those who formed the APC in Kano and Sokoto, the same problem is going on in Adamawa and in most of the places today APC has two structures, the structure of the original founders and the structure of those who have just joined, who are struggling hard to displace those who formed the party and what we have seen in recent times is that because APC does to have a principle, doesn't have an ideology, they gave sidelined those who struggled to form the party because of the new entrants.
"This for me is not how political parties are formed. Political parties are formed by believers who control the soul of the party even as new people are coming. So clearly if you look at what is happening today,  PDP is really the only solid multi national political party, it is multi religious it is multi ethnic and it is multi national even the capacities as Nigerians. We don't have the extremists that they have in APC and other parties so gradually Nigerians will see the difference between these parties and those who left".
He further noted that leaders must have stability adding that people who were now being celebrated in APC, were the same people APC was attacking in PDP before.
" So the cross over from PDP when they were in PDP, they were seen as monsters, they were abusing them and then they cross over to APC, they celebrate them now as the new leaders. So you see something is wrong, and APC must tell Nigerians truly what does it have to offer them, nothing, it is just semantics and looking after failed people in PDP to APC if that is the programme, then I think that something serious must happen, the press must hold people to account because this is the time to hold people to account" he said"

Meet The Women Behind The Most Powerful Men In Nigeria


Photos: Meet The Women Behind The Most Powerful Men In Nigeria


As often said, beside every successful man, there is a woman. It has just come to the fore that every successful politician has a woman of great influence who plays along with him. If it was the man’s spouse, it is considered better because courage and support are brood right from home. This is more so, considering the fact that no woman will watch her husband record a public and documented failure during his stay in office.
Below are details of the women behind Nigeria’s current powerful politicians…
DAME PATIENCE JONATHAN:
As it stands now the biggest influence on the Nigerian political landscape is undoubtedly President Goodluck Jonathan. President Jonathan’s ascending political profile since the advent of this democratic dispensation is a feat that is rarely achieved. Yet one cannot glorify him and underestimate the role played by his spouse, Dame Patience Jonathan. It is believed that Patience wields much influence on Jonathan’s political decisions. For instance, it was
Rumoured recently in some quarters and carried by some media that Lady Jonathan, who is known to be a strong advocate of women rights and growth, might have influenced the expulsion of the Rivers State governor, Rotimi Chibuike Ameachi, by the State chapter of the ruling People’s Democratic Party (PDP) as there has been a face-off between her and the Governor who are both indigenes of the State. Dame Patience pursues the course for the empowerment and respect for the rights of women with unprecedented zeal. She was known for this course even right from when her husband was Deputy Governor of Bayelsa State.
Patience, who has a BSc. in Biology and Psychology from the University of Port Harcourt, was born in 1957 into a respectable Christian family of Lazarus Iwari-Oba in Port-Harcourt.
AMINA SAMBO (OFR):
Mrs Amina Sambo (OFR) is the wife of Vice President Namadi Sambo, and therefore Nigeria’s Second Lady. She was Kaduna State’s First Lady between 2007 and 2010 when her husband was governor of the State. As a background influence to her husband, she must have been a good companion and adviser, contributing to the political ingenuity that has seen him to the topmost echelon of Nigerian politics today.
Mrs Amina Sambo was born in Riyom, Barikin Ladi Local Government Area of Plateau State, Nigeria. She had her primary education at Girls Boarding School, Gindiri, Plateau State, after which she enrolled for a Nursing course before she had her secondary education. She is currently the Executive Director of the Grassroots Health Organisation of Nigeria (GHON).
She coordinated a national programme on the prevention of Vesico honeypotl Fistula (VVF) towards safe motherhood in Nigeria, and was a consultant on delivery at the Centre for Development and Population Activities (CEDPA) projects in northern Nigeria. In view of her outstanding achievements and contributions to national growth, she was conferred with the award of Officer of the Federal Republic (OFR) by President Jonathan.
HELEN DAVID MARK:
The Senate President, David Alechenu Bonaventure Mark is married to four wives. They are Omale, Kate, Helen and Randa. Mark, who represents Benue South federal constituency, is a former military governor of Niger State. He was first elected into the Senate in 1999 and has clinched the position till date. He is indeed, one of the influential political figures in Benue State, if not the most powerful and sophisticated politician in the state.
Senator Mark enjoys a lot of support from all his wives, one of whom is Helen, who often identifies with him in his political struggles and is often seen with him in official outings.
SENATOR (MRS) DAISY DANJUMA:
She is the wife of Theophilus Yusuf Danjuma, a retired General who, by virtue of his philanthropic gestures has received various awards and titles across the country; a man who is now seen by many as a political benefactor and advisor to the political elites, especially those of northern extraction. Senator (Mrs) Daisy, a former senator from Plateau State, is a graduate of Law from Ahmadu Bello University.
In 2003, she was elected Senator of the Federal Republic of Nigeria where she has served on various committees, most notably, as Chairman of the ECOWAS Parliament’s Women and Children Committee and Chairman, Senate Committee on Women Affairs and Youth Development.
HAJIYA INNA MARYAM CIROMA:
Former minister of Women Affairs and current Acting Managing Director, National Inland Waterways Authority, Hajiya Inna Maryam Ciroma, is the wife of former minister of finance, Alhaji Adamu Ciroma. Hajiya Inna was born on September 11, 1954 in Biu, Borno State. She attended Ahmadu Bello University (ABU), Zaria, where she graduated in 1978 with a degree in Political Science. She later obtained a Post Graduate Diploma in Public Administration, perhaps, in her desire to sharpen and equip herself for the task of public service and administration.
Having had several careers cutting across federal civil service, private entrepreneurship and investment, there is no doubt that she is very exposed. Her husband, Adamu Ciroma, is also a former governor of the Central Bank of Nigeria (CBN). He was the chairman of the Obasanjo 2003 re-election Campaign Organisation. This shows how the Ciromas are considered politically weighty and relevant by Obasanjo who was, then, very desperate for his re-election bid. Of course, he needed no less political personalities than the Ciromas whose role in capturing the north was considered un-negotiable.
There is no doubt that Adamu Ciroma is an old pillar in Nigerian politics. In 1979, he was a presidential aspirant on the platform of the National Party of Nigeria (NPN). However, he did not scale through in the party primaries. He also served as NPN secretary. Ciroma was,
at other times, minister of Industries and Agriculture. Behind this unwavering politician who was a respected senior cabinet member during the Shagari administration, Hajiya Inna is the woman that provides all sorts of encouragement and support.
HAJIA HAUWA DANBABA SUNTAI:
The rave of the moment, Hajia Hauwa Danbaba Suntai is the wife of Governor Danbaba Suntai of Taraba State. Hauwa, a Shuwa Arab from Borno State, is the reliable storehouse of the Taraba governor who was
involved in an air crash in October last year in Yola, Adamawa State, when he was reported to be flying himself in a private jet. Hauwa has been standing by her husband throughout his ordeal, practically demonstrating that what he needed mostly to recover is, perhaps, the affection and emotional therapy of a dear one. During this same time, Hauwa gave birth to twins in USA where her husband was receiving treatment after he was transferred from a German hospital where he was initially admitted.
Just last weekend, her husband was flown into the country from John Hopkins Hospital, USA. Following this, many are still in doubt if the governor is physically fit to function in his capacity as the governor of the state. It therefore, looks similar to the Umaru Musa Yar’adua sickness saga when Turai was practically doing everything possible to rule the country by proxy, thereby, safe-guarding her husband’s position.
Similarly, Hauwa Suntai is being rumoured to be playing the same role to ensure that her husband’s seat is retained. Despite that the Taraba State acting governor, Alhaji Garba Umar, is officially carrying out the constitutional duties conferred on him in the governor’s absence, Hauwa’s influence in the Taraba government house cannot be denied.
DAME JUDITH AMAECHI:
Dame Judith Amaechi is the wife of Governor Chibuike Rotimi Amaechi of Rivers State. She is the founder, Empowerment Support Initiative (ESI), a non-governmental organisation concerned with campaigns against HIV/AIDS, protecting the rights of women and children and promotion of gender equality as well as girl-child education.
Dame Judith was born on December 24, 1970. She attended Federal Government College, Abuloma in Port Harcourt, Rivers State. She later attended Rivers State University of Science and Technology, where she graduated in Urban and Regional Planning. Her husband has suffered high degrees of political crisis in recent times ranging from the imbroglio involving his official aircraft and officials of the Nigerian Civil Aviation Authority (NCAA) in Akure, Ondo State, an attempt to unseat him as the chairman of the Nigeria Governor’s Forum (NGF) which pitched him against President Goodluck Jonathan and Governor David Jonah Jang of Plateau State, to the recent violence that took over his state assembly in what was unexpected of civilised lawmakers of this century.
Not forgotten is the rift between Amaechi and the commissioner of police in Rivers, Mr Mbu J. Mbu which was interpreted by many as a stage-managed and tele-guided scenario. It is interesting to note that while the wranglings lasted, Dame Judith, like the proverbial rock of Gibraltar, stood closely by her husband with a rare philosophical calmness and in a manner that seems to assure him: “don’t worry; the coast will soon be clear and safe”.
HAJIYA JUMMAI BABANGIDA ALIYU:
Hajiya Jummai Babangida Aliyu is the wife of Governor Mu’azu Babangida Aliyu, the Chief Servant of Niger State, as often referred to. Her husband is one of the most powerful politicians in the country. Aliyu was elected governor of Niger State in April 2007 on the platform of the People’s Democratic Party (PDP). He was re-elected for a second term on April 26, 2011. Therefore, by 2015, he would have governed the state for eight years.
Also, Governor Aliyu is the incumbent chairman, Northern States Governors’ Forum, a formidable political forum to reckon with. At the pick of the crisis that rocked the NGF, Aliyu, not minding whose ox is being gored, stood his ground and maintained that the embattled governor Chibuike Amaechi should be recognized as the elected chairman of the forum, going by votes cast.
Hajiya Jummai, popularly known as Madam Chief Servant of Niger State, following the nomenclature carved by her husband, is the fountain of courage behind Governor Aliyu. Some of the initiatives she introduced in the state are Women Empowerment, Reforming Prisoners, minimizing and addressing the issue of sexual abuse and ensuring that every Niger child is computer literate.
HAJIYA NANA KASHIM SHETTIMA:
Hajiya Nana Kashim Shettima is the wife of Borno State governor, Alhaji Kashim Shettima. Recently, Nana took a bold and exemplary step by empowering no less than 500 women in the state with soft loans to enable them start petty trading activities. Using Support for Widows, Orphans and Tsangaya (SWOT) Foundation, a pet project founded by her, she was able to bring succour to the less privileged women , most of whom were victims of the serial insurgent attacks and destructions unleashed on the state by the Boko Haram sect.
Recently, during the Ramadan, she distributed cash and food items to 400 Muslim widows and orphans in Borno.
Her husband, Governor Shettima, would have been thrown into a state of political convulsion following the eruption of violent attacks in his state if he were not a man of strong will, added to the support of a wife like Nana. It can be rightly said that since Shettima came to office, he had not had opportunity to peacefully drink water and drop the proverbial cup, having inherited a state that has, overnight, become a training camp and breeding ground for the insurgent group.
However, in good and bad times, Governor Shettima is sure of one thing – the moral support and encouragement of his wife, Nana.
AISHA BUHARI:
Hajiya Aisha Buhari is the articulate wife of General Muhammadu Buhari. She was born in Adamawa State to the family of Nigeria’s first minister of defence, Muhammadu Ribadu. She is also a granddaughter of the first Chiroma of Adamawa. Hajiya Aisha attended Ahmadu Bello University (ABU), Zaria, where she bagged a Bachelor’s degree in Public Administration. She also attended Carlton Institute of London and the Academy Esthetique Beauty Institute of France, Dubai, where she obtained a Postgraduate Diploma in Cosmetology and Beauty Therapy.
She is also a graduate of International Affairs and Strategic Planning.
Over the years, as General Buhari continued to pursue his presidential aspiration, she has always done everything within her reach to support him and ensure that he wins election. She once assured Nigerian women during a fund raising dinner for female candidates of the defunct Congress for Progressive Change (CPC) that if her husband won the presidential election, that women will be given the priority they deserved which would focus on their health, education, and being given opportunity to contribute to the growth of Nigeria. What else can a woman do to further fortify the political fortress of her husband more than what Aisha has done?
JUSTICE (MRS) FATI ABUBAKAR:
Justice (Mrs) Fati Lami Abubakar shares in the fame of her husband, General Abdussalami Abubakar (Rtd) who ended the long military rule in Nigeria by voluntarily handing over power to a democratically elected civilian president. It is one historic gesture that makes these Abubakars unique in Nigeria’s political history. With the growing popularity of the position of First Lady, one would have thought that Lady Abubakar would advise for a stay-on.
However, Justice (Mrs) Abubakar is a success story on her own. She is the first female lawyer, Solicitor-General and Attorney-General of Niger State respectively. She is currently a Judge of the High Court of Niger State.
A second child of the late Waziri of Minna, Alhaji Umaru Audu and Hajiya Nana Asma’u, Justice Abubakar was born in Minna, Niger State. From college, she gained admission to study law at Obafemi Awolowo University (OAU), Ile-Ife, graduating with an LLB in 1975.
JUSTICE (MRS) MARY ODILI:
The mention of Nigeria’s strong politicians can never be complete without the mention of Peter Odili, the immediate past governor of Rivers State, who is said to have nurtured the incumbent governor, Rotimi Ameachi. Justice Mary Odili is the woman that has been behind Odili as his wife. Mary is currently a Justice of the Supreme Court of Nigeria.
Justice Mary Odili was born on May 12, 1952 at Amudi Obizi Ezinihitte, Mbaise Local Government Area of Imo State. She attended University of Nigeria, Nsukka, Enugu Campus (UNEC), where she obtained her Bachelor’s degree in Law (LL.B Hons) in 1976. She had held several judicial positions at one time or the other in Rivers State, Abuja, Kaduna and so on. This legal giant was appointed a Justice of the Supreme Court of Nigeria on June 23, 2013.
AMBASSADOR BIANCA OJUKWU:
Ambassador Bianca Ojukwu is the wife of Biafran warlord and vibrant politician, late Chief Odumegwu Ojukwu. Before his death, Ojukwu was a national leader of All Progressive Grand Alliance (APGA), on which platform he had contested for presidency but did not win.
Controversies seem to trail this ethereal beauty, lawyer and business woman and the Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria Pageant winner in 1988, Miss Africa and the first black woman to win Miss Intercontinental, Bianca Ojukwu.
Bianca Odinaka Olivia Ojukwu is the daughter of the legal luminary and former governor of the old Anambra State, late Chief Christian Chukwuma Onoh, of Ngwo, Enugu State. She met the late Ojukwu when she was 22.
MORENIKE FLORENCE SARAKI:
Morenike Florence Saraki is the wife of late Dr. Olusola Saraki, former governor of Kwara State and a politician that wielded enormous power and control in Kwara State. She is the mother of Senator Gbemisola Saraki and stepmother of the former governor of Kwara State, Bukola Saraki.
Florence has been around her husband during his political struggles. The exit of Saraki who has been a stabilizing and rallying factor in the house might pave the way for Florence, the only wife, to be the new force in the family politics.
MRS. MARGARET PETER OBI:
The was born Margaret Brownson Usen. She got married to governor Obi in 1992. Margaret is the brain behind her husband’s National Gender Affirmative Action which encouraged at least fifty per cent slots to women under Obi’s administration. Margaret is known for her humility despite her intelligence which she kept hidden while working intensively and inconspicuously to garner support for her husband’s administration. She is also known for her fierce devotion to women empowerment and child protection activities.
She facilitated the distribution of equipment grants to women cooperatives that are engaged in dry season faming. Thus, promoting their access to factors of production and enhancing their capacity to support their families. She also facilitated the establishment of Family Courts in the state’s Ministry of Women Affairs and Social Development (MWAPD) to deal with issues of child abuse and violation of women’s rights especially widows’ right to inheritance.
SENATOR OLUREMI TINUBU:
She is the wife of former Lagos State governor, Bola Asiwaju Tinubu and the National Chairman of the Action Congress of Nigeria (ACN). In 2011, she contested and won the Lagos Central Senatorial Candidate of the ACN.
Claims of her husband, the ACN National Leader imposing Oluremi on Lagosians as a 2015 gubernatorial candidate for the economic capital without observance of the party’s primary election surfaced in recent months. In June, 2013, in a public address on Channels Television,
Oluremi Tinubu dismissed the claim that she has set her sights on governing seat of Lagos, saying, “My husband did it for eight years … I don’t think I have the strength to say I want to govern the present state of Lagos.”

7 Ways to Keep Your Love Strong

Marriage is a lifelong project of building love.

7 Ways to Keep Your Love Strong The El Al security line looked endless. My family and I were on our way back from Israel; each one of us navigating our heavy luggage carts while trying not to bump into people. We finally settled in and waited for our turn to answer the usual questions. We hadn’t noticed the couple in front of us until we heard an angry outburst.
“I don’t believe it! All our suitcases just fell off the cart and it’s your fault!” The woman was gesturing indignantly at her husband. “You said I should listen to you and just pile them on. Now look at this mess. You always do this to me. You think you know best, well you don’t. Next time I am not listening. That’s it. I had it with you.”
Husband and wife glared angrily at each other. While we tried to help the couple with their luggage, the monologue continued. The husband waved a dismissive hand in his wife’s direction.
I don’t know if this couple had a wonderful holiday but their trip home was definitely ruined.
No one begins marriage by wanting to be nasty or unkind. It is just that we forget how to be gentle. Somehow we slack off and grow less sensitive. We neglect to use charm and laughter. We become thoughtless with our words. It does not take much effort to cause pain.
Even if we stood under the chuppah thinking that we’ve met the person of our dreams, we soon realize that no one is perfect. Every human being has their flaws. We need to work together to establish a strong foundation so that this bond will endure.
There is incredible potential in every marriage. How can we bring out the best in our relationship and make the potential our reality? If we view our marriage as a lifelong project of building love we come to the understanding that marriage requires constant care. A good project manager knows that we need the proper tools, time, effort and team to reach our goal and make all the pieces come together successfully. If we want a marriage that will endure we must think of a plan to help make our marriage strong.
Here are 7 steps to strengthen your marriage:

1. Create An Atmosphere of Affection

Many couples say that physical intimacy is the first to go when a marriage begins to crumble. It is important to remember that a physical connection is maintained by expressing and showing affection. We cannot allow stress and responsibilities like work and raising children to lessen our ability to demonstrate that we still care for one another. Sending warm and funny texts, concluding phone calls with ‘I love you’, and placing notes in a bag of a spouse who must travel are all great ways to display affection. Express gratitude often especially for the little moments that may often get overlooked. Be careful not to start taking your spouse for granted.

2. A Daily Dose of Kindness

Happy couples make sure that acts of kindness are a daily part of their lives. Being nice should not be left for special occasions. It also does not mean that we need to spend lots of money. Pick up a favorite chocolate bar or cappuccino, allow your partner to sleep in on a Sunday morning, fill the car up with gas to help save your spouse time. Judaism teaches us that the more we give the more we will love. We mistakenly have come to believe that the more we receive, the more we will love. We wait for the other person to give and forget that love grows when we invest and devote ourselves to making the relationship work.

3. Acceptance

Recognize that every person has their limitations. We all make mistakes. Everyone has a habit that will drive us crazy. So what? Stop trying to change your spouse. Accept him for who he is. Stop focusing on what drives you mad. It will only make you madder. Work, instead, on seeing the positive traits your spouse possesses. We need to focus on the good so that our love will grow. He may be awful at buying gifts but he is great at clearing the dinner table. She may not be the best organizer but she doesn’t lose it under pressure. Once you accept your spouse and zero in on the blessings, the foundation of your marriage will be strengthened.

4. Revive Your Romance

Letting ourselves go becomes easy through the years. Work on making yourself look and feel attractive. This goes for men as well. Positive changes bring positive reactions. Lose the baggy sweats and stained t shirts. Commit to a weekly routine of spending time together. Be sure to turn off your phones and devices. Remember that this is not about spending precious time discussing problems or the kids. This is about rekindling the spark.

5. Look Away

We don’t always have to be right. We don’t always have to get the last word in. Everything that upsets us does not require a speech or ‘I told you so’. There are times that we do not choose a situation but we can choose our reaction. And that reaction can either build or destroy. If I can sometimes look away, the little daily mess-ups will not throw me off course. Consistent reactions of irritation and stretches of silent treatments threaten to eat away at the bond that keeps a marriage together.

6. Remember your Goal

When you are upset or angry ask yourself: What’s my goal? It is more than just paying the mortgage, getting the kids through school, or going on vacation. My goal is creating a ‘mikdash me’at’- a mini sanctuary. This means that I live in a home filled with peace. I strive for harmony. Always ask ‘does this action, does this reaction, help me achieve my goal?’

7. Cultivate Friendship

Beneath the chuppah we bless the bride and groom and say “Grant abundant blessings to the beloved friends…” Develop the friendship side of your marriage. Remember that true friends don’t betray confidences or put each other down. They protect their friendship, make time for each other, and don’t jeopardize their relationship.
You may realize that it is time for a change from the ‘same old same old’. Talk together with your spouse and get on the same page. Say: We need to change how we treat each other. Let’s try to find time for each other. Let’s tone down the negative and the frustration and work on being positive with each other.
We can all work harder to show how much we love each other.