Top 10: Are You Ready For Marriage?

1. Do you really love this woman?
It’s very important that you actually enjoy spending significant amounts of time with the woman you’re about to commit the rest of your life to. Do you really, really love her? Do you care about the details of her life? Does she preoccupy your thoughts? Do you love this woman at her worst?
2. Are you ready to be responsible for a wife and family?
3. What are our values (family, religion, politics), and do they mesh?
4. Do you trust this woman completely?
5. Do you really know her?
6. Have we discussed whether or not we want children?
7. Does she want to keep her last name or change it?
8. Can you imagine being with her for the next 30+ years?
When all is said and done, when looks and passion fade, do you see yourself able to be with this same woman having spirited conversations sitting on the porch when the two of you are old and gray? If you can’t see yourself with this woman in a few months, let alone a few years, you’re not ready for marriage.
9. How will you manage your finances?
Some couples like to combine all their finances; others prefer to have a joint account for the household expenses, and separate accounts for personal spending.You need to discuss what individual assets and debts both of you bring to the marriage.
10. Under what circumstances would you consider divorce?
Infidelity? Dishonesty? Abuse? Again, there’s no “right” answer here, but it helps to reduce any uncertainty if you hear before you get married the level of commitment you are both bringing to the table.